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I listen when people speak. That’s the key to any relationship (romantic, platonic, familial, etc.). People tell you everything you need to know if you just listen. You’ll hear what makes them happy, what makes them sad/mad, what they wish for, and often times they’ll provide the solution to their own problems without even knowing it, and you can be there to help point that out. There’s been numerous times I’ve asked, “Did you hear what you just said?!? THAT’s your answer RIGHT THERE.” Also, by simply listening and observing you can become the best gift giver in the world. Try this: next time you’re with a person as they’re online shopping, listen to their commentary and reactions to certain items and mentally take note of what they like. Then when their Birthday or other holiday comes along, you’re getting them the perfect gift AND it’s something they actually want! And finally, imagine what this can do for your sex life. People always tell you (in obvious or subtle ways) what they like. So take note, and take them to their happy place. TL;Dr: Talk less… listen more.